Why the E-Myth is a must read for those interested in business.

I just finished reading an excellent book that has been around for years. It’s called the E-Myth and starts by painting a picture of working in business that intimidated and scared me into thinking that I couldn’t possibly do it. More than that, I would always ponder why someone would go through so many intense challenges just for the sake of their business. 

Gerber attributes the failure of many small businesses not to a lack of skill, but to lack of knowledge about what the priorities are. The image of the small business owner as the lone crusader in a fight to keep the business going is a reality for some people. Someone close to me was having many very similar challenges quite recently with their business. Gerber then proceeds to describe an alternative way to establish, run and grow a business so that it achieves predictable results of success. Now obviously, that isn’t a guarantee, but the main ideas that I took away from the book were:

* Your business should become your vehicle and help you to live the life you want to, not become a burden and source of misery.

* In the words of Stephen Covey, beginning with the end in mind will ensure that you have a broader vision of what you want your company to eventually blossom into.

* The best businesses have create a culture that compels everyone connected to it to produce good work. This is down to creating an environment of purpose where each person feels their work is valued and important.

* Well thought out systems of operation go a long way to making sure that people who enter the business understand exactly what is required of them meaning that business owners can focus on strategy rather than technical work.

* Well planned systems means that your business can operate without you even being there. Thus creating the freedom that all business owners went into enterprise for in the first place.

* The organisational hierarchy of the company should be created at it’s inception, not when the company grows as that might be too late.

*Discovering your primary aim (The reason why you want to start a business) will help you make decisions about the company that allow it suit your needs and wants. 

If any of these ideas or concepts interest you, I would strongly encourage you read the book. I gained a huge amount from it, and will no doubt be referring back to it over and again once I start creating my own business.

I wish you the best


Self-acceptance is more important than self-improvement?

I have always been very passionate about the role of self-improvement in my life. The name of my blog shows that I believe in a holistic way of life. Self- improvement has served me well in that capacity because I believe I am more effective now than I was in the past.
However, there was always an idea that puzzled me. It was a paradox in my thinking.
If I’m always striving towards new goals, when will I get the feeling of being successful? When will I enjoy the fruits of all the work I’ve done on self-improvement?
The missing piece between success and self-improvement is self-acceptance. I now realise that without self-acceptance, there is the danger that you will never be happy with your success. Success isn’t a tangible thing. It’s a feeling, and that feeling is relative. If you took two people with the exact same circumstances in life, one could be the happiest person alive and the other person the most miserable. The way they perceive what they have and their level of identification with those things, will determine whether they feel successful.
When I have felt successful in life has been when I have cultivated that state internally. It is the journey towards the goals as well as the end point that can create a feeling of success.
I am working on self- acceptance because I realised I was playing a dangerous game where I was losing the ability to be happy in the present moment because I was forever chasing goals. The goals were not the problem, it was my identification with the result of attaining them. In short, because I was obsessing over achievement, I would have been dissatisfied with my level of income, health, relationships or career. I was making the false assumption that those things are who I am. I cannot wait for the ideal of everything before I become happy. That is not true living.
Self-acceptance is the subtle art of knowing yourself internally so that you don’t have to rely on the external things around you for identity. I understand why people chase success symbols like cars, huge houses and other similar things. It is almost a way of measuring your level of success in the world. However, this measurement system is fundamentally flawed because it does not go deeply enough. It also cannot measure the intangible elements that really make us who we are. Here are some of them.
Our core values
Our purpose
Being happy
Having the ability to immerse fully in the present moment
A connection to a force that is greater than our-selves.
These things are the timeless.
Let go of the idea that your external possessions are who you really are. Become in tune with the concept, that everything you need for life you already have inside of you. Look within. Here is a resource to help with this.
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-Self-Acceptance-Can-Crack-Open-Your-Life This is a ten day programme of activities that are designed to help you start thinking about self acceptance. I have found some of them useful especially day one. It was really challenging to think that deeply about myself and it did give me some perspective on who I really am. I really liked this paragraph to explain what self-acceptance means:
Self-acceptance is the process of befriending the Unconditioned Self—the part of you that is more than just your name, your history, your story, your failures or your successes. You are more than just your experiences or how other people see you or the clothes you wear.
I wish you the best.


Post 005: A powerful message.


This message is so important. Eric Thomas shares an important insight that is so crucial to remember when you are trying to achieve your goals.
Every single one of us is a significant being!
All of us can make a significant impact!
We all matter to someone and have value!
Don’t ever forget that!
All the best



003 Why body mind heart and spirit?

Image S.Covey

I have decided to focus on these words because they represent beautifully the essence of balance that I now want in my own life. They address what I see as the elements that combine to create a whole person. When I look back on my life, my happiest moments and periods in my life have been when these things have been in alignment.

Body (The physical) I feel best when I am supporting my body physically with movement and nutrition. I want to be as healthy and disease free as possible.

Mind (Mental) I feel best when I am mentally stimulated by a project or task in my work. I feel best when I become immersed in the present day. I am very focused on improvement.

Heart (Emotion/feeling) I feel best when I choose to feel positive and choose how I want to respond in any situation. When I am developing strong relationships with others.

Spirit (Purpose) I feel best when I have a sense of purpose and a principle based reason to pursue a future vision.

If we think of ourselves in a more holistic way, we can see how certain activities can serve different areas of our lives. This allows us to then reflect on our lives as a whole and aim for complete satisfaction. These things complement each other to create a sense of fulfillment that one element alone will not generate.

I used to address the body and the mind, but neglected my heart and had no purpose until the death of my father.

After the shock and the upset of that event, I came to terms with the fact that life is so short and unpredictable. I was at a point where I knew that I wanted to change some things, but had no idea where to start. Neglect of the heart took different forms. I used to keep everything in and hold it down. I was overly concerned with making sure I didn’t offend or upset others and I allowed that to become my reality. I programmed myself to ignore my intuition and assert myself within the world. I was lucky because the greatest blessing of my life arrived and created in me the spark to search, strive and attain the life I truly want and deserve.

My son was born on 19th May 2011. Seeing him for the first time created within me a love and intensity so strong that words cannot do it justice. Through my relationship with my family, I have begun to develop myself in all four areas. I am beginning to use my imagination to create a way of life that I see as ideal in order to instill within my boy the idea of becoming a whole person.

My wife has been my heart and my spirit at times during our relationship and for that I will be eternally grateful to her. My family mean everything to me and I now look for balance in order to help guide our family in a balanced way.

A suggestion:Think about your life in these different areas and think about how balanced you are. This can lead to some great insights and cause for celebration as well as some areas for development. My areas to develop include following through consistently on my nutrition choices, avoiding paralysis by analysis, and connecting with and trusting my inner guidance. If you do have a go at this, it would be great to hear what your thoughts are after reflection.

Till next time


P.S I would like to thank everyone who has followed this blog and have read my very first posts. I am very grateful for your time and truly appreciate anyone who spends time reading and reflecting on my thoughts. Thanks again. My goal is to connect with as many like minded people as possible to get inspiration as well as helping others with my experience and ideas.