Stand up now and face the sun
Won’t hide my tail or turn and run
It’s time to do what must be done
Be a king when kingdom comes
Aloe Blacc – The Man
I have been very blessed recently with the way that my work has been progressing. It has been pleasing to keep up a wave of successful momentum. The trick for me that has really helped has been my increased awareness of where I need to focus my energies to create personal growth.
My focus has been shifting to my inner world, and I am finally starting to see how I have been holding myself back in certain areas of my life and how that can spill over. Once I had decided to clean up and tidy my desk, that idea then started to effect other areas of my life. My car was brutal and had been for some time. Because I had made the choice to be oblivious in my classroom to the importance of order and tidiness, it was only when I tackled that that my awareness expanded to my car, my home, my kettlebell gym in the cellar, my work bag and the list goes on. I was changed fundamentally by the choice to raise my standards and as a result my perception of tidiness changed.
This has also effected the quality of my workouts and has become a wider mission to de-clutter and remove all things that do not advance my life in some way shape or form. My workouts are ruthlessly efficent, timed to the second and more intense than ever before. I find myself constantly asking, “What use is this ?” Is it going to help me move forward. As a result, there is far less variety in my workouts and I have decided to stick to half a dozen movements that will serve me the best for the next few months.
You may ask what the value in all this activity is and to be honest with you, I have asked myself that question in the past. I think I have finally stumbled on an answer that makes sense to me. I need to raise my standards in certain areas in order to raise my standards in all areas. I realised that the trait that successful happy people have is focus and high standards. My standards in some areas of my life were high, but in others I was more slack. As a result, those slack areas became bottlenecks and I was only as strong as my weakest link.
I am now attacking my organisation skills to get them to the highest level possible because that was one of my major bottlenecks. Disorganisation in my life would lead to making silly mistakes, being stressed about deadlines, procrastination, fear of failure and a whole host of other results that were not congruent with other areas of my life where I would find things easy. If I had not tackled this problem, when the next huge opportunity of a lifetime comes my way, my character would not have been strong enough to handle the responsibility of the position I will eventually find myself. To be as direct as possible, your actions tell people who you are more than your words ever could. Talent or circumstances can sometimes take us to places that our character cannot keep us.
Now I have spent time on strengthening my character, I feel ready to take on more. I have adapted to the phenomenal change of raising two young children, looking after myself and making sure my wife and I have enough time for each other, The change was a like a knockout punch, and I’m only now getting up, but I feel a hell of a lot stronger and more capable. Opportunities are starting to come my way. My contact with Alistair Smith bore fruit and we are going to meet in person and discuss some things. My mentor has been keen for me to start getting involved with the work that he is doing in building a base of mentors for young people across the U.K. I’m excited about the future, and mindful that I need to make sure I’m ready to be the king when my kingdom comes.
Invest the time in yourself to listen to your intuition and discover what your bottlenecks are. Non of us are perfect and I have many areas for development, but by tackling those things that have eluded you in the past head on, you feel more in control of your present situation and the future you can create for yourself.
I wish you the best