Search for the awesome in your life: 10 reasons my wife is awesome!

Here’s one way you can make yourself feel really good really quickly. I learnt this from the book ‘Living in the Overflow’ by Michael Bernard-Beckwith. He says that learning to look for things in your life that you can be grateful for puts you in a state where you can begin to deeply appreciate all the good that you already have. It has been mentioned time and again, but trying to live in a state of gratitude really does change how you see the world.
In the spirit of gratitude, I would like to share with you ten of the many reasons that make my wife awesome. To all the lovers out there (and we all love someone) showing the special people in your life appreciation for who they are is hugely important. If we do not tell them how we fell, how will they ever know? Don’t wait for a special occasion like an anniversary to tell them how you feel. Let them know it in small ways every day. It might be complimenting them on something, or a part of their character. It may be that you decide to surprise them with a gift, or even something as simple as running them a bath, or looking after the children so they can pursue a hobby or just have some rest time. Little acts often are the best way to show appreciation.
Here are the ten reasons my wife is awesome. As I said earlier, I could write so many, but ten seems a good number.
Since the day we met, she instantly belonged in my life.
This is hard to really put into words, but we just fitted so perfectly into each others lives. The timing was right, there were no obstructions to us being together, and we had instant chemistry that has matured and developed over the years.

We laugh every day.
I can’t remember a day (and we’ve had some really challenging ones) where we have not
had a great laugh together. We don’t take ourselves too seriously, and we see the fun in life. When one of us is being a little too serious, we can address it and help each other get back on track.

She is super talented but humble.
Annemarie is a great artist and can draw fantastically well. She is also a fantastic maker of cakes and has produced some stunning creations. Despite all these skills and many more, she is unassuming, humble and always ready to learn and grow more.

She helped me to be a more open person
Annemarie really encouraged me to open up and share more of myself and my feelings. If it wasn’t for her I probably wouldn’t have started this blog and would have far more insecurities than I do today.

She makes me feel awesome.
Her awesome-sauce rubs onto me making me feel awesome. Sometimes when I look at her I just feel so happy that she decided to enter a relationship with me.

She is beautiful inside and out.
Enough said.

We like different things.
We are not the same and we don’t see everything the same. This helps me to keep an open mind. We have different interests and want to pursue different things. I think this is very healthy in a relationship. Rather than being carbon copies of each other, we are two individuals who have chosen to be together.

She gave birth to my beautiful children.
I will be eternally grateful to her for carrying my two children Nathan and Ava. They are the biggest blessings in my life and will always be my greatest source of inspiration. Annemarie has contributed hugely to them being the great children that they are.

She always sees the potential in me.
When we met, I had no job, no money and no-where to live. I had just got back from travelling around Europe and didn’t even have a mobile phone. I wrote her number on a napkin and memorised it, then went back to Manchester, ‘borrowed’ my brother’s phone and got in touch.
She has encouraged me when I have wanted to try new things and always believes in me -Even when I have no faith in myself.

She simply makes me happy.
Every day we are together, she makes me happy. I’m sure she would say the same about me. We know how to have a good time and enjoy a simple life without drama. That isn’t to say we don’t have tough times. Just like everyone else, not every day is sunshine and roses. But when it’s time to ride out storms, I wouldn’t want anyone else by my side.

So there are ten reasons why my wife is awesome.
What do you have in your life to be thankful for?
We all deserve to have awesome things in our lives. Search for them today and celebrate them heartily.

Be awesome.

The power of commitment


Today I want to reflect upon the power of commitment in my life in order to help you see the value of developing the capacity to stay committed.

Commitment is as important as goal setting when attaining success and fulfilment in life. The areas where I am most committed in my life are to my wife,  my children and myself. Through examining the principle of commitment through these areas, I found really interesting patterns that can be applied to create commitment in other areas.

During our wedding ceremony, my wife and I made a commitment to each other. The vows we spoke to each other, explain the principle of commitment extremely well:

I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part

The words are so powerful because they show that commitment means constancy. We made the choice to stay together for the rest of our lives. Good times are easy, and everyone can enjoy those, but it’s those hard times when the commitments we have made have to be at the front of our minds and they call on us to remember what we have promised to each other and ourselves.When I lost my father, my wife was the one person who helped me through it and who I opened up to the most. She supported me when I was broken down and burnt out at work. She has reassured me during times when I doubted my own strength and capabilities. There have been times during the relationship where I have done the same for her. We support each other and make each other stronger. This is the principle of commitment in real life.

I sometimes wake up at crazy times during the night because of my commitment to my children. If Ava needs something at any moment day or night, we take care of it. Every night I put Nathan to bed. We read a story then he lies down and goes to sleep. I stay with him because I’m committed to spending time with him that is just us. That can be hard to do when work starts to pile up and I am only arriving home an hour before his bedtime. But the most important thing is that Nathan and I  have quality time every single day that we can. It is our responsibility to raise our children and we don’t take that lightly at all. This commitment does not waver and does not change. It is a powerful force that transcends mood, energy levels, and at times sanity. We do what we have to do for our children.

I have recently made the same level of commitment to myself in a few key areas of my life. In the past, I have allowed myself to be sidetracked by circumstances or my feelings about what I was trying to achieve. However, my growing understanding of the power of commitment has compelled me to try the things that were unsuccessful in the past. I now appreciate that having a reason why is the essence of true commitment. I have now created reasons why I must achieve those things I am striving for. Although this does not guarantee 100% compliance, it does mean that I am protecting those things that I hold important from my moods and feelings that can be influenced by so many different factors. There is no compromise or excuses to hide behind. I get the job done.

3. In order to get different results, I understand now that different choices need to be made. In order to take my life to a higher level, I must develop as a person. Keeping my word to myself is one of the key ways I can affect personal growth. For example, the lifestyle that I now lead is completely different to one that I used to have. Paradoxically, now that I have two children, I’m finding I actually spend more time on activities that will lead to personal growth. This is down to choices and the importance I see in becoming a role model for my children that they can really learn from. Down went the x box pad, and instead I spend my time listening to audiobooks and reading, writing blog posts, working out, spending time with my family and meeting with my mentor to help with my personal growth. I now see time as a currency to be spent and to be spent wisely. I have made the choice to focus very heavily on some key areas. I’m committed come rain or shine. My devotion will not falter.

What commitments have you made to yourself that are going to help you develop yourself and others around you?

Are you aware of the actions that you take and what this says about your commitments in your life?

Are your behaviours in congruence with your values?

These are the questions I have started to ask myself to make sure that I am on the right path. Being honest with yourself can be challenging, but it is worth it. Make some commitments for your own life that are going to get you to the places you want and need to be for real fulfilment.

Choose success