Want to learn the skills of the world’s greatest persuaders?

Do you find yourself banging your head against a brick wall when dealing with other people? Maybe you would like to learn how to persuade people that you have a good idea. It might be that you want to convince your child that going to bed is a good idea, or trying to convince your boss that you are the right person for the promotion.
This book could save you many headaches. This book will provide you with many solutions if you follow it. I honestly believe that this book if studied and applied could give you the skills to negotiate any issue or situation that involves dealing with other people. The book I’m talking about is the classic novel ‘How to win friends and influence people,’ I’ve not been re-reading it for long, but there are some principles that just ring true with how things should be with your relationships with others.
You will find this book to still be relevant even though it was first published way back in 1936. Human nature hasn’t changed that much. I plan to produce a much longer study of the book in future posts, but here are some of my main takeaway points so far. If these sound like ideas you would like to explore further, then I strongly recommend you read or listen to the whole book.
Principle 1: Criticism is useless. This is a massive concept and a huge challenge to normal thinking. People revere critics and are encouraged to take on board criticism and take responsibility for mistakes. Carnegie argues that people very rarely blame themselves for anything. Now this isn’t the ideal, we are dealing with reality here and 9 times out of ten, wouldn’t you agree that this is true? The book explains an alternative to criticism. Hint: it starts within.
Principle 2: People only do something because they want to do it. This idea is so simple, and yet so true. We can be forced to do things in the short term and through aggression and fear. True leaders create great enthusiasm through the way they treat their employees. If you would like to learn the secrets of these great leaders, then this book has the answers.
Principle 3: Become genuinely interested in other people. This principle explains the uncanny ability some people have to gain rapport with others very quickly. If you would like to learn how these things are done, then you might want to have a look at this book.
I know I’m probably preaching to the converted here, because most people who seem to read my blog are interested in their own personal development and growth. If you want some fresh new ideas on how to really get people on your side, in a genuine organic way, then read this book. I absolutely love it and am trying to bring some of these key principles into my life right now.
Be awesome.

Love, crazy work and accepting my body. What a week!

Reflection is so important. It allows us to spot patterns, replay important events and take stock on our life. Reflection allows us to also show gratitude for what we have as well as giving us pointers to reach the goals we want in the future. Each week I am going to quickly reflect on my week in different ways. Gratitude, achievements, health, and life.
My wife and I had our date night this Monday. Every month on the 10th, my wife has organised for us to do something together that I have no idea about. This has been to celebrate the 10th year of our relationship. In that time we have more fantastic memories than I can count. So my main area of gratitude this week to reflect on is the incredible journey my wife and I have been on so far and all the ways that she has helped me to become the person I am today. I love you Annemarie.
I managed to keep on top of my workload in a very intense week at school. I had an observation, a load of paperwork to get in, a book scrutiny, and on top of that, I actually had to do some teaching. Despite the work schedule, I managed to keep on top of my stress levels and had a good week. I also really wanted to keep posting on my blog and I have managed to do that as well.
I’ve been trying to work on my perception of what healthy is. I have written about this quite recently.
Due to this, I have started re-reading the Gabriel method. This is a fantastic health book that takes a much more holistic view of being our best physically. The author Jon Gabriel revolutionised his own health and sorted out his psychology as well as his body.
My perception of my own body has always been slightly warped. I have realised that there have been not many moments in my life when I have satisfied and happy with my weight. So at the minute, fat loss is not important to me. I have to work on self acceptance of my own body at any weight. So my health goal is one I can imagine many can relate to. I want to have a healthy image of my self. I’m going to work on becoming happy with my body. This is so important because it will impact not just on me, but on my children too. If they see daddy constantly unhappy with his body and subtly putting himself down, they will think it is normal to do themselves. I want to address this not just for me but for the sake of my children.
What have been your main take home points from this week?
What are you looking forward to next week?
They are the main things floating around in my head as I prepare for another week to begin. I hope you all have an awesome week.
I wish you the best

Why the E-Myth is a must read for those interested in business.

I just finished reading an excellent book that has been around for years. It’s called the E-Myth and starts by painting a picture of working in business that intimidated and scared me into thinking that I couldn’t possibly do it. More than that, I would always ponder why someone would go through so many intense challenges just for the sake of their business. 

Gerber attributes the failure of many small businesses not to a lack of skill, but to lack of knowledge about what the priorities are. The image of the small business owner as the lone crusader in a fight to keep the business going is a reality for some people. Someone close to me was having many very similar challenges quite recently with their business. Gerber then proceeds to describe an alternative way to establish, run and grow a business so that it achieves predictable results of success. Now obviously, that isn’t a guarantee, but the main ideas that I took away from the book were:

* Your business should become your vehicle and help you to live the life you want to, not become a burden and source of misery.

* In the words of Stephen Covey, beginning with the end in mind will ensure that you have a broader vision of what you want your company to eventually blossom into.

* The best businesses have create a culture that compels everyone connected to it to produce good work. This is down to creating an environment of purpose where each person feels their work is valued and important.

* Well thought out systems of operation go a long way to making sure that people who enter the business understand exactly what is required of them meaning that business owners can focus on strategy rather than technical work.

* Well planned systems means that your business can operate without you even being there. Thus creating the freedom that all business owners went into enterprise for in the first place.

* The organisational hierarchy of the company should be created at it’s inception, not when the company grows as that might be too late.

*Discovering your primary aim (The reason why you want to start a business) will help you make decisions about the company that allow it suit your needs and wants. 

If any of these ideas or concepts interest you, I would strongly encourage you read the book. I gained a huge amount from it, and will no doubt be referring back to it over and again once I start creating my own business.

I wish you the best


Inspiration can come from anywhere


Last Friday was a great day. It was the last day of half term, I was going to a training day conference with all the other teachers from the local area, and I met one of the most inspirational people I’ve met in my career so far. Alistair Smith.

During the preliminaries, I was thinking about all the great things I had planned for my half term holiday. In the main, lots and lots of sleep. I was not prepared for what was to come. In short, I was blown away by the delivery, content and insights that the guest speaker gave me. The reason I was so inspired was because he gave me a glimpse of the life that wanted to create for myself. I was sat there thinking: I could deliver a speech in that style. I could engage an audience in that way. He wasn’t over the top, and he didn’t make me want to cringe throughout his speech. He spoke at a level that I could relate to, and then elevated my understanding of what the elite in our field do on a regular basis. He also used lots of practical activities that meant we were engaged constantly from start to finish.

About halfway through the speech, I realised that I had to speak to him and make some sort of connection. He was too great a character to never contact again. What in the world was I going to say to him? This was not my style. Then I told myself another story. If you want to become a man who has created his own life on his own terms, you need to be resourceful at all times. Don’t use shyness as some pathetic excuse to not step up.

So, as soon as lunch time was announced and everyone made their way to the massive queue for food, I made a bee line straight for the front of the room.

I started with a compliment, and that broke the ice. Then, he asked if he had met me before and that he recognised me. We hadn’t met before, but I played along to make a deeper impression on him. I asked for a business card as I wanted to contact him about something. He said that would be fine. Yes! I had done it. There had been a moment where I wasn’t going to bother, but I knew that within my discomfort lay my personal growth.

When I spoke with my mentor, he was pleased and we shared some strategies about how I could leverage this new contact and approach him with some ideas that he might be interested in.

Even if nothing comes from making initial contact,I’m glad that I did it and told him just how much of an impression he had made on me. He was a true inspiration, and a frame of reference for what my life could become with hard work, vision and ambition.

Who are the role models that you have in your life.

Do you have heroes who inspire you to become the greatest version of yourself?

I have many. Here are a few of mine: Sir Alex Ferguson, Robert Kiyosaki, The Roots, Outkast, Lionel Messi, Christiano Ronaldo, Tom Venuto, Chris Lopez, Alan Peat, Alistair Smith, Denzel Washington, Eric Thomas, Antony Robbins,Brian Tracey, Jack Canfield, Jim Rohn, Adam Wallis and there are many many more including my Mum.

Choose success