It’s been a while………………..

It’s been a long time, but I’m back and will hopefully be posting articles at least once a week for the foreseeable future.

I guess I needed some time away from the screen and felt like I wanted to think carefully about what to put out there through my blog. I have been doing a lot of introspective work over the past few months, and in the near future I will probably share some of the things I have been reading and doing, but I  felt mentally drained, and believed I didn’t have the energy to muster up blog posts for  a while. I’m back with the bit between my teeth and hoping to motivate and inspire at least one person to take action and make their lives better.

The subject of energy is a good one to start with as I think it is something that is regularly mis-understood.

People like to think of energy as something that can ebb and flow due to lifestyle factors, and I believe there is a large portion of truth to that. But I have a bit of a paradox from my own experience that does not correlate.

In theory I should have the least amount of energy now than in any other period in my life. I have two children under the age of four, and I work in one of the most stressful environments there is to work in (teaching and education) I should be destroyed every night.

But, it’s not working that way. In fact I would say that the opposite is true. The more I try to fit things in and tend to all my responsibilities, the more energy I have.

How is this possible when I a running on less than optimal sleep and have spent many nights praying to the God of sleep to come and sort it out?

I believe the answer lies in perception.

Do you see completing tasks as draining or empowering? Do you look at your work and feel overwhelmed or do you feel motivated?

One little trick I have learnt that seems to help change my perception of workload and increase my performance is to break down a difficult task into smaller chunks.

Take for example marking a set of books. If I think of the task as marking a whole set of books from start to finish, then I can’t muster up the energy to get going on the task. What I started doing instead was to think of the task of three sets of ten books. This seemed much more do-able. I would just start with ten books and see how I felt after that. Most times, I would then have the motivation and momentum to tackle the other 20 and get all the work done. The task was not any different, but my perception of the work load was greatly influenced by seeing the task in smaller chunks.

I got this idea of chunking from my workout regimen.

I was not having great success with my training programme. I seemed to be moving heaven and earth in my sessions but had nothing to show for it. This was discouraging and was really getting me down. I was close to giving up on my sessions, but I decided to not do that, but change my approach.

Using the format championed by Pavel Tsatsouline, I decided to reduce my workout to the bare essentials and really drill down on only the essential parts. He said something in his book “Simple and Sinister” that really resonated with me. “Training should give back to you and should never be taking away from you” I took that to mean that I should be benefitting from my workouts in my strength levels, fitness and in how I was feeling. I now use that rule of thumb with tasks in my life as well. Is what I am doing going to result in gains in my life, or is the activity literally a waste of energy.

With this approach, I almost treat my energy level like a budget to be spent wisely on activities that are an investment of my time.

Because I view most of the activities I take part in with this perception, I am usually highly motivated to perform tasks and activities to the best level that I can.

Where I can have energy dips is where this budget is not properly balanced. If I hammer one aspect of my life to the detriment of other areas, I then leak energy and feel less effective in my day to day life. Balancing all your responsibilities is difficult and challenging, but the pay-off is better than feeling overwhelmed and stressed because things are not as they should be.

Think carefully about how you are spending your time. It is the one resource you can never get back once you have spent it.

Have you thought carefully about the things you are doing and what impact they have on your energy level, mood and state of mind?

What is one simple change you could make today that could make a huge difference in your life?

Have you ever tried looking at a difficult task in smaller chunks and tackling them one chunk at a time? It could make all the difference when completing that challenging project.

I wish you the best


My terrible phone, the matrix and the ultimate upgrade

I.O.S Infinity- What my phone taught me about personal development.
Last week, I tried to download a new app for my phone. It looked really interesting and I was looking forward to using it. The download failed. Usually this happens because I have no memory left on my phone but this time it was down to the fact that my operating system (O.S) wasn’t up to date. Frustrated at my phone’s need of an upgrade I abandoned downloading the app. Although I had the capacity to download the app, I did not have the operating system needed to run the programme needed effectively.
This then got me to thinking about the mind. I have read and heard of the brain being compared to a computer several times. Maxwell Maltz describes the brain in this way in his great book Psycho Cybernetics. He refers to the way that the mind acts completely in accordance with your image of yourself. Steve Peters refers to one part of the mind as the computer in his book The Chimp Paradox. He describes how we store patterns of thought and behaviour in this area of the brain that are stored for later use.
Peter Diamandis, creator of the Xprize and a full time bad ass, shared an analogy on Tim Ferriss’ podcast that I wanted to share and expand with you.
He described the mind as the operating system and apps as the skills that we go away and learn. A bit like how Neo has skills downloaded onto his brain during the film ‘The Matrix’ but in reality it takes a lot longer obviously.
Neo sits in a chair and has a giant cable stuck into the back of his head. He then has different martial arts downloaded directly to his brain. If only it were that simple. It is a powerful metaphor though that helps us to see the brain as a mechanism that can be changed, programmed and developed. Here’s the scene for those who have never seen the film. There is bad language in the clip. So if that offends you in any way, just skip it and keep reading.

Now here’s where the analogy gets interesting. Peter made a really interesting point. He said that people are always thinking that they need to go and learn a new skill or tactic to make progress. The thinking is that downloading the new app is going to solve everything and make things better. People believe this leads to happiness, progress and everything else in life. But how often do we look at the O.S? Until the operating system changes, the way you operate in the world will not change. Think back to my phone. That app was available to me as it is to everyone else, but the limitations of the phone blocked my ability to have it.
One of the most dramatic O.S upgrades I had was when I became a father. In an instant, the way I saw the world had changed. The choices I make, the actions I take and my level of focus were all permanently altered.
We have all had moments like this when life can never go back to the way it was. Some experiences would have been good, bus some may have been very traumatic. Another O.S upgrade that I received was when my father died. It was so painful, and I did not come to terms with it until five years later. Therefore, the growth I received from that experience only came when I was ready to receive it.
When we think about our minds, the operating system is the most important aspect of our ability to make progress and be successful in life. What parts of the mind make up our operating system?
Our experiences.
We learn from our experiences all the time. Our mind is constantly linking our experiences to pleasure and pain and has a library of reactions stored and ready to roll out when needed. Our O.S is designed to keep us moving towards pleasure and moving away from pain. Therefore, if you want to make progress in any area, you need to make that thing seem appealing and pleasurable. In this way we can change the meaning of our experiences in order to empower us.
I used this insight taken from Tony Robbins and Marisa Peer. You need to frame whatever you want to do and have in a pleasurable way. You need to explain to yourself how those things give you pleasure.
For example, I love exercising. It allows me to stay fit and play with my kids. It also allows me to stay in good shape and fit into my clothes.
I love staying up late to write. It allows me to create awesome blogs and work on my book that will one day be read by thousands of people. I enjoy reading the comments and feedback I receive and always look for ways to improve what I have written.
Linking these things to pain means that the mind will stop you from developing these things. This is a great way of thinking about the world and the only way to expand your comfort zone and capabilities. By positively framing actions that we don’t always want to do, our chances of performing them is massively increased.
Our self talk
What you say to yourself is like the programming for your computer. I mentioned this in my last post, and it is amazing how differently you feel when you speak to yourself differently. The bottom line is that you will be speaking to yourself all day anyway. So you might as well become aware of what you are saying and use it to your advantage. In Nichiren Buddhism, chanting is used to invite wisdom to the mind.
SGI President Daisaku Ikeda on chanting daimoku:
“Being human, it’s quite natural for our minds to wander, for all sorts of thoughts and memories to surface. [. . .] There is no set form or pattern for how we should pray. Buddhism emphasises being natural. Therefore, simply chant earnestly without pretence or artifice, just as you are. In time, as your faith develops, you’ll naturally find it easier to focus your mind when you chant.
“It’s natural for prayers to centre on your own desires and dreams. [. . .] By chanting very naturally, without affectation or reservation, for what you seek most of all you’ll gradually come to develop a higher and more expansive life-condition. Of course, it’s perfectly fine as well to chant with the resolve to become a bigger-hearted person or for the welfare of your friends and for kosen-rufu – the happiness and flourishing of all humankind.”

Affirmations are words and phrases you say to yourself repeatedly to impress them on your subconscious mind. You can use affirmations in order to speak directly to the subconscious. This can then lead to action in that direction. Now some people say that affirmations are not as powerful as actions. However, I see affirmation as an action in itself. It is an intentional act designed to help develop your mind. Therefore, it could be one way for you to bring about the things that you want in your life. The key is to say them repeatedly and very frequently. Daily affirmations work best.
You can also spot people’s self talk in how they speak to others. Try to become aware of your own self talk. If you speak words of life, then it helps you to create a positive life for yourself. If you speak words of loss and death, don’t be surprised to find your life experience as negative. The mind casts no judgement over the information you present to it, it just follows your commands. Your mind is the engine room of the ship, but you are the navigator and captain. You must steer your ship with confidence in the direction you want to send it.
I am making the consicious effort now to not make judgements on my ability before I try something. For example, the words I can’t can be very damaging, so I try to avoid saying it not. I also try to avoid wishy washy middle of the road expressions like ‘I’m doing o.k.’ ‘Not so bad’ and things like that. I used to say this all the time when people asked how I was. Now I say things like awesome, brilliant and words that have very energetic upbeat connotations. It makes a big difference to how I feel, but also has a similar effect on the person who I’ve said it to.
Our vision of ourselves
How we see ourselves is an enormous component of how our operating system works. If you believe that you are a happy, successful, positive person then you will act accordingly. If you see yourself negatively, maybe as someone who has no personal power, or somebody who has always been lazy, then you are again going to act accordingly.
You need to start to see yourself in accordance with what you want to achieve. You cannot wait for the evidence to present itself in the world. Thinking that way will have you waiting forever or pausing waiting for the perfect moment. I procrastinated in this way on certain things for years until I realised that the perfect moment is the moment you take action. You can change the way that you see yourself very quickly by deciding on the person that you want to be. If you want to see yourself as successful, then your O.S must be alignment with that. If your paradigm of the world is not able to see the things that you want clearly, then your chance of receiving them are slim to none. Remember, the operating system is the most important thing that you have. It allows you to take on new skills and change your life situation.
Your why.
Your purpose needs to be clear to you. Without it, it’s so easy to become a passive member of society without any need of personal or professional development. In today’s world, there are so many things we can be distracted with. I find it very difficult at times to make the decision to write these posts and do the things necessary to create the life I want for myself and my family.
What pulls me back to those things of importance is my purpose. The things that I believe are worth working and striving for. My purpose is to reach my full potential and inspire others to reach theirs. I want to achieve my personal freedom. To me that means every day I’m spending time doing things that are important and meaningful to me. This means that I need to be constantly upgrading my O.S so that I have the capacity to learn more, do more and become more. This is the life I have chosen to live, but it is very hard to remember this without constant reminders. My journal helps bring me back to this purpose, and whenever I do not remind myself of this, I find I start to get distracted.
My why came to me after days of thought and reflection. I also have the desire to live a long and happy life around the people I love the most. This compels me to exercise, and to finally find a strategy to reach my ideal weight. (Still working on this one ha)
My mindset is so much stronger than it was several years ago. The way I see myself has dramatically changed, and I no longer have as many barriers to progress as I did. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect and I still make loads of mistakes and fall down. However, I no longer define myself by these my mistakes and failures. I purely want to give the best example I can to as many people as possible in the time I have. I am now pursuing a state of being rather than a level of success. I want the ultimate upgrade.
O.S abundance!

Start upgrading today

I wish you the best

The power of words.

positive talk
Do you ever find yourself beating yourself up internally, telling yourself you can’t do things or stopping yourself from attempting challenges that seem difficult?
This is a daily reality for people with low confidence and can become a real difficulty. I can speak with authority about this because I was one these people for so long. I inherited a very risk wary mind-set when I was younger. This is especially true of my mother. I love her dearly and I had a great childhood, but my mum would be the first to tell you that she was and still is a huge worrier.
Her worrying nature is now a part of me. I hid it well from everyone, but when I was younger, it made me not want to sing. I am a good singer, so the talent was always there, but before performances I would get extremely anxious. I would obsess over one part of the song and worry myself sick about getting it wrong. This catastrophic thinking led to me eventually finding it very difficult to sing when people asked me to.
The problem here was the power of the words I spoke to myself. They massively changed my state of mind. When I reflect on the things I used to say to myself, I realise it was the power of the words that had me literally choked up:
You will look like an idiot in front of everyone if you get this wrong.
What if you lose your voice tomorrow?
Everyone is going to be watching you.
What if you forget the words?
What are the words again?
These sorts of recurring thoughts killed my enthusiasm for singing and I shelved it for a long time. It was a decision that I never thought through, but when I went to University and no-body knew I could sing, I just let that part of me lie dormant. I never spoke about it so it was never really an issue.
What we say to ourselves is massively important. If I could go back in time and talk to my younger self, I would have told him that I always have the power to change the words I speak to myself. Therefore I have the power to make myself feel immense:
No-body on Earth can sing quite like you do.
You have the ability to get up on stage and express yourself in front of 100’s of people. That is incredible.
You don’t even have to think about this. It comes as naturally as walking or talking.
Show everyone who you really are.
Be free.

Imagine how I would have felt saying those things to myself as a young man. I don’t think I would have ever stopped singing.
I am learning to change the words that I say to myself because they do have so much influence over what we do. How we talk to ourselves effects how we see the world around us. Of this there is no doubt. I now see the value of my voice as an expression of who I am. I let it lie dormant as I mentioned before, but I don’t regret this. If I had not gone through the process of learning how to manage my own state through the words I say to myself, then I would not be the person I am today. I would not be able to pass this lesson on to my children, and all those who may someday read these words. I’m grateful for the experience of discovering this process because now I can apply it to other areas of my life.
Do I still have a worrying nature? At times yes, and I think that will always be the case. However, it now does not have the power to paralyse me and make me second guess myself.
How do you speak to yourself? Is it positive and encouraging, or is it fixated on fear and loss.
Saturate your mind with positive words, images and thoughts and it will permeate your being and shine out from you. You deserve to have a mind that is working with you to build you up.
I now look forward to singing again with confidence and joy. I have been looking for a way to do this and think I have found one by joining a local gospel choir.

This is my day!

How to start a day like a boss.
It was late in November when I realised that I needed to start my days differently.
I awoke to the sound of crying from the cot. Ava was awake and needed me. I hopped out of bed and checked the time. 7:45. I had slept in again!! My alarm had not woken me up and I did not feel ready for the day. No time to worry about that, it was my wife’s turn for the car and they wouldn’t be ready to leave till 8:30 for nursery. I messaged my mother in law, they were heading my way in their car. She replied saying I could get a lift but they wouldn’t be leaving till 8:10. This meant I would get to work twenty five minutes before the children.
As I sat in the car, I made a vow to myself that this would never happen to me again. I was completely relying on others to get to work and felt powerless. It doesn’t seem like a good idea to start the day with feelings of powerlessness.
Two weeks later, I found a solution.
I was listening to a podcast by Pat Flynn. Here’s a link to his work:
He recently did an interview with a man named Hal Elrod. I had not heard of him before, but after listening to the challenges he had experienced in his life, I decided to pay attention. He has a fantastic mentality to life and it has helped him to overcome major challenges. He was talking about a morning routine that he created for himself that gave him great results. I wanted to find something to help me with this because I have been fighting a losing battle with the alarm clock.
Don’t get me wrong. I am always up for work and ready to go in good time, but this leads to me starting my day with a million things to do for my family before I am out of the door. I love doing things for my family, but filling every second with it means there is no time for those things that Steven Covey describes as important but not urgent. It also means that I don’t have time to mentally prepare for the challenges of the day ahead. I needed to create time for me to focus on early morning exercise, visualisation, reading and journaling and I wasn’t finding that time. It also speaks powerfully to my subconscious that I am in charge of my day and I have set my own agenda.
Hal describes a process that follows an acronym: S.A.V.E.R.S. These stand for Silence, affirmations, visualisation, exercise, reading and striving. I haven’t read the book and all the insight I have is from the podcast, but I have been incorporating it since January and have had amazing results.
*I have woken up at five A.M every working day in January with ease.
*I start the day feeling in control of my agenda and state of mind.
*I have been able to exercise first thing in the morning consistently.
*Instead of feeling tired, I have been feeling more energised and full of purpose.
*I own my day because I have time to write actions for the day in alignment with my goals.
I would not do justice to Hal by trying to explain how it works, but if you are interested in starting your days in complete charge of how you feel, this is something you have to look at. I wake up at 5 A.M so that if my children wake up around 6, (which they sometimes do) I can still fit the routine in. When the children get older, it will be even more time in the morning for me to pursue my goals and start the day right. You might not need to get up as early as me, but carving out this time is vital. All the successful people whose ideas I follow have a morning routine. I am really enjoying creating my own.
I wish you the best
P.S I also discovered that my phone’s alarm was not working when it was plugged into the mains. This has helped massively as well.

Look within. Wisdom from Kung fu Panda

I have been lucky enough this new year to spend lots of time with my family and friends. One particular morning, my son and I watched Kung-fu Panda. I have never seen it and thought it was a great movie that had some key principles that we could all try to apply to our lives. One which jumped out was the revelation of the secret ingredient.

This scene demonstrates beautifully the idea of belief. If we can generate a belief and hold onto it strongly, it can inspire us to greater things. The external search for that one missing thing to stop procrastination can never compensate for the internal feeling to act generated by belief. The realisation that Po (The Panda) makes is that he is good enough to fulfill his own destiny. He has everything he needs within and he just needs to bring it out.

A new year is a new chance for us all to aim for goals and dreams we have in life armed with the belief that we are good enough to attain it. Yes we will have to learn and make mistakes along the way, but those mistakes help us to grow and develop into the person we want to be.

No amount of hacks and special tricks from ‘gurus’ can compete with what we have within. We are all special and unique. Kung fu panda reminded me that belief in ourselves is an amazing source of power inside all of us.
Go for what you want today and claim your personal power!

Wishing you all the best for 2015


Get Help!

One thing that has become really clear to me this year is just how important other people are in our lives when it comes to anything we want to do. There have been a few things that have happened recently that powerfully demonstrated this to me. One thing that happened was my wife getting sick. She had a urine infection that got pretty serious and it was a really worrying time for us. She is much better now and we are getting back to normal. When I reflect back on that time, the number of people who helped us directly or indirectly was staggering. My mother in law was amazing in supporting us and really helped me support the children and Annemarie as best as I could. My mum did an awesome job as well and came over to help us when we needed it. My boss at work was really helpful and put my mind to rest about being away from work to focus on my family. All the doctors who saw Annemarie did their best to help her recover and get well. The list of people is so long that I was taken aback with the level of support. So it is with great gratitude that I write this post.
It also allowed me to realise even more what an awesome job my wife does in looking after the children and making sure they are getting all they need. Without Annemarie doing that, my life would be utter chaos. I would have no time to pursue work goals effectively or have quality time to do things like writing this post. She is a wonderful woman and she doesn’t understand just how vital what she does is for the children and for me.
When I look on things that have turned out well for me, almost all of them have been the result of getting some help along the way. Now, I’m not discounting my own efforts, but the help of others can accelerate the rate at which you achieve what you want. In the past I have been guilty of seeing getting help as a form of weakness on my part. I now realise that is my ego speaking and I am open and massively grateful to all the opportunities and help that I am lucky enough to receive in life. When you close yourself up to help, you are stopping yourself from growing and developing. If you can relate to the feeling of being reluctant to help, then this could be a huge breakthrough for you. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be resourceful and independent. I now realise that asking, receiving and benefitting from help actually increases your level of independence, because you can solve many more of your own problems and help others to solve their problems as well. Who doesn’t want the ability to solve problems and achieve peace of mind.
When looking at getting into my ideal shape and reaching my health goals and targets (That will NOT involve endless weighing of myself) I am going to recruit a team of bad-ass trainers who’s help I can rely on. There are support groups, forums and sources of help that can make reaching any goals possible because you have surrounded yourself with others who know it’s possible and could also show you the way.
Don’t cut yourself off from the abundance of help there is out there waiting for you. Get other people involved in what you want to do and the value for all involved is immense.
I wish you the best
P.s If any readers would like some help from me in the form of answering questions, doing guest blogs, writing on my blog or anything that you can think of. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch. I would love to start writing blogs in response to people’s questions and concerns rather than just my own. Let me help you get what you need.

My greatest teachers Part 1: Primary school

My greatest teachers (and what made them great) Part 1: Primary school
We can all agree that teachers are very important people in our lives. Some of us had teachers that inspired us to want to become better, and some of us had dire teachers that we couldn’t stand. I think in our lives we do encounter both and you can learn from all experiences. I was lucky to have some amazing teachers in my life in education. They really helped shape my character in different ways. All of these teachers offered something different perspectives and paradigms. All of these people will always be special to me, and I will remember them always. What’s really funny is that looking back, it wasn’t their lessons that really made the most impact on me, but it was the way that they treated me and made me feel that I remember most.
Primary school: Mr Sale
Mr Sale was great because he had high expectations. I remember quaking in my boots the year before entering his class because every now and then you could hear him giving someone a serious ear bashing in the corridor. It always sounded brutal because you could only hear impressions of what was said, and his voice sounded so guttural and deep.
My first day in his class filled me with dread. What was he going to be like? Very quickly I realised that although he was strict, he was also kind and thoughtful. He loved the things that I loved. He was a huge football fan and he loved stories. One of my most memorable experiences was listening to War of the worlds on tape cassette in his class. It scared the life out of me, but it was one of the most exciting story experiences of my life and I spent six months checking the skies at night to make sure the martians weren’t on their way.
He made me the captain of the school football team and had faith in my ability to carry out the role. I was so proud when we beat our local rivals three nil and I smashed in a hat-trick.
He talked to us about our interests, and made us all feel important. He had the same high standards for everyone in the class and did not tolerate excuses.
I know that Mr Sale still works in the school today. He has been there twenty years since he taught me, so he also has immense experience on his side. He has committed himself fully to St Malachy’s primary school and that is really commendable.
Thank you Mr Sale. You had belief in me and had the ability to make all the children in the school feel important and valued. I wonder if he still makes the kids listen to war of the worlds? I will have to go back and ask him.

Reflection time 23.11.2014

I got the chance to spend all Saturday with my two children alone because my wife started her new job. I had so much fun and really enjoyed my time with them. It was tiring physically, but energising spiritually because they made me feel so young. We had fun, watched movies, ate good food together and Ava had a nice nap as well. Great times.
Annemarie and I got the chance to have a second date night of the month. We had a great time and ate a lot of Mexican food that was really tasty. I wanted to show gratitude to Julie A.K.A Iron fist because she is crazy strong. She is Annemarie’s mum and looks after the children when we are out and about or really busy getting something done. She has also given me many lifts to and from work when I need one.
Big up to the following virtual mentors who have contributed to my understanding this week: Robin Sharma, Eric Thomas, Zig Ziglar, The Hodgetwins, Charlotte Ord and Jon Gabriel.
I’ve been trying to abandon my ideas of being on a diet and have focused on adding in as much healthy nutrition as possible without depriving myself or having thoughts of deprivation. This has been going quite well, but I am only now realising just how broken my signalling to my body was. My eating is starting to slow down, and I hope my intuition will kick in far more with eating and I will be able to get to the point where my eating is effortless and natural rather than forced and mentally draining.
Not mine directly, but one of my athletes qualified for the next round of the cross country championships. She performed really well and I was really proud of her and all the runners from my cross country team.
What memorable things have happened in your week?
I wish you the best

Why I’m sick to the back teeth of diets!!!

I’ve followed a few eating protocols down the years with a very similar pattern happening each time. Focus hard and lose weight, then somewhere down the road falling into old habits again and being back at square one. This doesn’t make sense. Why is it that people who put in less effort than me sometimes lose weight really easily whereas I’m there struggling for every pound?
I think the problem has been in the struggle. With all the rules, protocols, meal timings, meal plans and the hate campaigns on whole food groups, I became a little lost and confused. One guru would tell you eat only low carb. Someone else would say the exact opposite. Arguments in fitness and nutrition seem to be an annoying constant.
Inspired by the work of weight loss expert Jon Gabriel, I have decided to abandon any ideas of diet, restriction and regimentation from my eating. It sounds counter-intuitive, and that’s why I like the idea. Do I want to track my calories on my fitness pal or something similar? No. Do I want to weigh myself every day because what gets measured gets managed? No. What get’s measured too emotionally leads to negativity that has always surrounded all my weight loss efforts. This time needs to be a very positive experience where I believe that it is possible to get the exact result that I want.
The brain will always lead you towards pleasure, so I’m going to eat the healthiest foods possible that I find a joy to eat. I’m going to workout in ways that fit my lifestyle. I’m going to use extremely quick and effective workouts that make me feel fantastic each day.
I don’t want to be a fitness model, and I’m not particularly bothered about being overly lean and ripped. I want to be healthy, fit and have a decent physique with the least amount of time spent on requiring it. I don’t want to wear my fitness like some badge of honour over others and certainly have no interest in obsessing over training or eating or anything else of that nature. I’ve proven to myself that forcing things in that way doesn’t work in the long term for me.
To be honest, I’m sick of getting so stressed out about how I look. It is still one of my major challenges that started in my younger days when family members would make negative comments about my weight. They didn’t realise the damage they did to me and that I still struggle with it some days. But those days are over and I have moved on. I don’t give a monkeys what anybody thinks about the way I look anymore. In fact, I would go so far as to say that if I don’t lose a single pound, but I feel healthy and energetic, then I can accept myself as I am today till the end of my days.
I’m going to eat what I want, when I want and as often as I want. Hopefully, this will then allow my body to realise that food is abundant and there is no shortage. I have always been healthiest when taking this approach and it leads to me making healthier choices most of the time because no food is seen as bad or off limits to me.
Rant over
Be awesome.

Want to learn the skills of the world’s greatest persuaders?

Do you find yourself banging your head against a brick wall when dealing with other people? Maybe you would like to learn how to persuade people that you have a good idea. It might be that you want to convince your child that going to bed is a good idea, or trying to convince your boss that you are the right person for the promotion.
This book could save you many headaches. This book will provide you with many solutions if you follow it. I honestly believe that this book if studied and applied could give you the skills to negotiate any issue or situation that involves dealing with other people. The book I’m talking about is the classic novel ‘How to win friends and influence people,’ I’ve not been re-reading it for long, but there are some principles that just ring true with how things should be with your relationships with others.
You will find this book to still be relevant even though it was first published way back in 1936. Human nature hasn’t changed that much. I plan to produce a much longer study of the book in future posts, but here are some of my main takeaway points so far. If these sound like ideas you would like to explore further, then I strongly recommend you read or listen to the whole book.
Principle 1: Criticism is useless. This is a massive concept and a huge challenge to normal thinking. People revere critics and are encouraged to take on board criticism and take responsibility for mistakes. Carnegie argues that people very rarely blame themselves for anything. Now this isn’t the ideal, we are dealing with reality here and 9 times out of ten, wouldn’t you agree that this is true? The book explains an alternative to criticism. Hint: it starts within.
Principle 2: People only do something because they want to do it. This idea is so simple, and yet so true. We can be forced to do things in the short term and through aggression and fear. True leaders create great enthusiasm through the way they treat their employees. If you would like to learn the secrets of these great leaders, then this book has the answers.
Principle 3: Become genuinely interested in other people. This principle explains the uncanny ability some people have to gain rapport with others very quickly. If you would like to learn how these things are done, then you might want to have a look at this book.
I know I’m probably preaching to the converted here, because most people who seem to read my blog are interested in their own personal development and growth. If you want some fresh new ideas on how to really get people on your side, in a genuine organic way, then read this book. I absolutely love it and am trying to bring some of these key principles into my life right now.
Be awesome.