Make a decision

Just decide!

I finished my last report tonight for this academic year. These reports need to be in tomorrow and so I had left it till the last minute. I wasn’t up doing an all-nighter like I have done in the past, and I did start them about a week ago, but why didn’t I do them earlier? The simple reason is because at no point earlier on did I make a commitment to finishing or even starting the reports.

Making a decision makes all the difference and is the catalyst to true change.

When I was younger I was obsessed with a game called football manager. It was a way of life for many teenage boys in the U.K and many men also. When I first met Annemarie, I was still hooked on this game to her utter dismay. She would complain about the hours I spent on it and I knew she was right, but I couldn’t stop playing it. Or so I thought.

One day, I was on there playing at a critical stage in the season when the computer went nuts and totally ruined my game. I had spent hours on this, and within minutes it had all come crashing down around me. In that instant I felt the rage of frustration at what had happened, but also felt the huge a huge sense of silliness at the rage this had sent me in. Surely there is more to life than this I thought and in that moment I made the decision. I’m not playing this game ever again! I uninstalled the game from my computer and have never touched it again.

I don’t believe that these decisions can be forced, but I do believe that if you tap into a strong enough reason why, you can stir up enough emotional energy to make a decision stick. My decision to work-out and look after my body came directly after my dad passed away with a heart attack. After the grief and pain came the realisation that I was on the same road and I made the decision to change path.

The key question is Why?

Why become financially free?

Why do I want to lose weight?

Why do I want to live in that home?

Why do I want to quit my job?

These questions will help you become aware of your deepest motivations. If you have a strong enough reason why, any course of action seems possible.

I wish you the best

Shaun

5 thoughts on “Make a decision

  1. Hi Shaun,

    You’re right, it is the Why that will push us and take us out of our comfort zone in order for us to fulfil a specific goal.

    • That’s what I’ve found. When I have created goals without delving into why it’s important, I tend to self sabotage. Sometimes on inspection, I’ve realised that some goals I’ve set for myself aren’t really that important to me because I can’t think of why I even want to attain it. That has really surprised me when it has happened.

  2. I’ve just gone through some major changes like that and completely turned my life around. Feels great, doesn’t it?! Especially the financial freedom part, that always stressed me out a lot when I wasn’t ‘financially free’. All that time you suddenly have to do the things you love – I just can’t get enough of it 😀 Thanks for posting! 🙂

    • I’m glad you enjoyed it so much. Thanks for reading. I am in the process of re-assessing some of my goals now and you’re right, it feels great when you are working on things that get you going, You feel in control of your own life. I will no longer chase societies symbols of success. I look within for where my true success lies.

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